A Starter Guide To Self
Improvement and Self Esteem
So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self esteem in a
tough environment? Here are some tips you may to consider as a
starter guide to self improvement.
Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everyone else
around you may become Dart Pins, at one point or another. These dart
pins will destroy your self esteem and pull you down in ways you
won’t even remember. Don’t let them destroy you, or get the best of
you. So which dart pins should you avoid?
Dart Pin #1 : Negative Work Environment
Beware of “dog eat dog” theory where everyone else is fighting just
to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive.
No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and
dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you get to work too much
without getting help from people concerned. Stay out of this, it
will ruin your self esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be
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Dart Pin #2: Other People’s Behavior
Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers,
snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers,
exploders, patronizers, sluffers… all these kinds of people will
pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well as to your self
improvement scheme.
Dart Pin #3: Changing Environment
You can’t be a green bug on a brown field. Changes challenge our
paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way
we think. Changes will make life difficult for awhile, it may cause
stress but it will help us find ways to improve our selves. Change
will be there forever, we must be susceptible to it.
Dart Pin #4: Past Experience
It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But don’t
let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail
and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.
Dart Pin #5: Negative World View
Look at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the
negativities of the world. In building self esteem, we must learn
how to make the best out of worst situations.
Dart Pin #6: Determination Theory
The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end
product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing
(psychic), and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse,
the company, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your
own identity. If your father is a failure, it doesn’t mean you have
to be a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you’ll
never have to encounter the same mistakes.
Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or
positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a
choice. Building self esteem and drawing lines for self improvement
is a choice, not a rule or a talent. God wouldn’t come down from
heaven and tell you – “George, you may now have the permission to
build self esteem and improve your self.”
In life, its hard to stay tough specially when things and people
around you keep pulling you down. When we get to the battle field,
we should choose the right luggage to bring and armors to use, and
pick those that are bullet proof. Life’s options give us arrays of
more options. Along the battle, we will get hit and bruised. And
wearing a bullet proof armor ideally means ‘self change’. The kind
of change which comes from within. Voluntarily. Armor or Self Change
changes 3 things: our attitude, our behavior and our way of
thinking.
Building self esteem will eventually lead to self improvement if we
start to become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we
do. Its like a flame that should gradually spread like a brush fire
from inside and out. When we develop self esteem, we take control of
our mission, values and discipline. Self esteem brings about self
improvement, true assessment, and determination. So how do you start
putting up the building blocks of self esteem? Be positive. Be
contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to
compliment. A positive way of living will help you build self
esteem, your starter guide to self improvement. A Starter Guide To
Self Improvement and Self Esteem.
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